Conflict resolution scripts designed to reduce overwhelm & amp up your ease

To throw, catch & keep in the air, several things simultaneously. Recognize what word that’s a definition for?  Do you recognize yourself in it?  I hope so because you’re probably a master at doing it. That’s the definition of juggling. Overwhelm with a capital O Juggling all you need to do for your work, your […]

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Understanding differences – 5 simple words that can lead to conflict resolution

I leap out of my seat involuntarily while clamping my teeth together only slightly less hard than I’m pressing my lips together because I’m afraid what I’ll say if I open my mouth. My throat feels like it’s narrower than a pin though, so I’m not sure I could speak.  My breathing is shallow & fast.  […]

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You & your supervisor … meh, yeah or wah?

I’ve used the blob tree (pictured above) for years.  It’s a great tool to get feedback & initiate dialogue in a creative way.  It’s critters (or blobs) represent all types of feelings & are jumping off points for stories. Last week I responded to reader Miriam’s comment (below) with a 2 part statement to help […]

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A 2 part statement to help you resolve conflict (yep, it can be that easy)

Conflict can be wrenching (pun intended). When we’re in conflict we tend to do more of whatever’s not working.  We can get into an endless cycle of repetition saying the same thing over & over, the ‘he said – she said’ saga.  Can you relate? We’re not exactly wired for conflict resolution To make matters worse […]

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Two simple ways to get out of marshmallow sticky conflict

  How do you illuminate the boxes that are limiting your thinking & unstick stuck thinking?   First of all, identify the boxes. If you think you’re a Carrot Life Lens™ … (See A from last week’s post if you need some background info) Pat yourself on the back for your amazing systems & ability to […]

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How to identify when frustration is limiting your flexibility

Quick – what the stickiest substance you can think of? Marshmallows that have been roasted over a campfire & are now all over your fingers? Chewing gum that’s annoyingly smeared on your favourite top?   Whatever substance you’re thinking of, multiple that by 100 & you’ll have an idea of how stubborn we humans tend […]

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From mud to migraines – how marrying my opposite gave birth to Life Lenses™

‘Do you get headaches doing that?,’ my boyfriend asked me, genuinely puzzled, while peering over my shoulder. ‘Say what?!,’ I thought, confused as mud, as I continued making my lists, relaxing into the task of sorting through the flotsam & jetsam of our lives & putting it all down in neatly organized lists. (Yes lists, […]

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Taking the cup game up a notch

Zowee- this cup video (below) is great! I learned the cup game years ago when I worked with youth through the YMCA.  It was a fav at conference meal times. Now I frequently use it during trainings, to help clients with: training trainers (Google ‘cup game’ to see good, bad & ugly examples of teaching […]

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Einstein’s Problem-Solving Formula, And Why You’re Doing It All Wrong

This Fast Company article, by Drake Baer, caught my attention. It’s a Stop Life Lens’ delight. Contemplation. Reflection. Analysis. All soothing words to & strengths of a Stop Life Lens™. Too much efficiency (a.k.a. being hellbent on action) can stifle innovation. Check out the excerpts below or click on the full article above. When asked […]

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It’s not about the nail (it’s about the process)

You simply won’t be able to watch this without laughing. Truly. This short video is not only laugh-out-loud funny, it’s a poignant reminder of the difference between Journey Life Lenses™ & Destination Life Lenses™. Journey Life Lenses™ are all about the process, how things unfold, the journey (e.g. let me talk & don’t try to […]

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