Five Ways To See Anew & Find Another Perspective

  Last week I made the case for Why You Need To See Anew & Find Another Perspective.   Because even though you know that today’s problems won’t get resolved by the same approaches you’ve taken in the past … And even though you know the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and […]

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2 alternative conflict resolution techniques I picked up at the UN

  √ Your blood pressure is boiling √ You’re quietly simmering with your jaw aching from clenched teeth √ Your heart is beating faster than a hummingbird’s wings √ You’re as cool as ice while you plot your revenge &/or √ Your every muscle is screaming run, as you plan your escape   These are […]

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Police, secret service agents & FBI are everywhere.

Police, secret service agents & FBI are everywhere. And those are only the ones I can see. I wonder how many snipers are stationed out of sight. Roads are blocked with huge cement bomb blast protectors. Traffic is cordoned off & diverted, while the streets are a colourful riot of every skin shade you can […]

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Rabble-rouser or runner? How you feel about conflict affects how you resolve it.

  When you hear the word conflict how do you feel? I often ask this question in workshops I lead simply because how we feel about conflict completely affects how we do (or don’t) resolve it (regardless of what the conflict is about).   It’s fascinating to see the extremely wide variety of responses to […]

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Conflict resolution scripts designed to reduce overwhelm & amp up your ease

To throw, catch & keep in the air, several things simultaneously. Recognize what word that’s a definition for?  Do you recognize yourself in it?  I hope so because you’re probably a master at doing it. That’s the definition of juggling. Overwhelm with a capital O Juggling all you need to do for your work, your […]

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Understanding differences – 5 simple words that can lead to conflict resolution

I leap out of my seat involuntarily while clamping my teeth together only slightly less hard than I’m pressing my lips together because I’m afraid what I’ll say if I open my mouth. My throat feels like it’s narrower than a pin though, so I’m not sure I could speak.  My breathing is shallow & fast.  […]

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You & your supervisor … meh, yeah or wah?

I’ve used the blob tree (pictured above) for years.  It’s a great tool to get feedback & initiate dialogue in a creative way.  It’s critters (or blobs) represent all types of feelings & are jumping off points for stories. Last week I responded to reader Miriam’s comment (below) with a 2 part statement to help […]

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A 2 part statement to help you resolve conflict (yep, it can be that easy)

Conflict can be wrenching (pun intended). When we’re in conflict we tend to do more of whatever’s not working.  We can get into an endless cycle of repetition saying the same thing over & over, the ‘he said – she said’ saga.  Can you relate? We’re not exactly wired for conflict resolution To make matters worse […]

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Two simple ways to get out of marshmallow sticky conflict

  How do you illuminate the boxes that are limiting your thinking & unstick stuck thinking?   First of all, identify the boxes. If you think you’re a Carrot Life Lens™ … (See A from last week’s post if you need some background info) Pat yourself on the back for your amazing systems & ability to […]

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How to identify when frustration is limiting your flexibility

Quick – what the stickiest substance you can think of? Marshmallows that have been roasted over a campfire & are now all over your fingers? Chewing gum that’s annoyingly smeared on your favourite top?   Whatever substance you’re thinking of, multiple that by 100 & you’ll have an idea of how stubborn we humans tend […]

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